Parenting Rude Kids -Amazing Insights

Parenting Rude Kids -Amazing Insights

It hurts somewhere so deep that even tears don't show up . I don't want anyone to know that my child is such a monster . I start questioning my parenting style . Did i go wrong somewhere ?  The psychologist tell me that my child has learnt it from me .I am in denial that i actually have a reckless monster that i have raised with all my love and affection . 

How ? why ? what went wrong ?

 My head spins all the time trying to answer this question. So my search begins -I go to astrologers who tell me that the stars are bad and the child is going through a bad time . The homeopath gives constitutional remedy .My denial gets even more support and i say it is not the child , it is the stars . More conviction is acquired when the family doctor says it is vitamin D3 and B12 that can cause mood swings in teens in addition to puberty pressure and hormonal changes . 

The tangential thinking also scans genetics , family history and friend influences . the denial deepens but the fact is IT STILL HURTS ! The pain is slowly breaking me down .The trust in a mother child bond is reducing but the denial keeps me safe .I start valuing friends and family and even my partner more .After all my partner is not my blood but still knows where to draw a line but my child does not even know that .

Finally the rude, condescending and critical behavior starts changing me as a person from a matured to immature person who argues with the little kid who suddenly becomes somebody else .I CAN'T TAKE THIS ANY LONGER .I decide to deal with the emotional cushion and one day after a heated argument and endless attacks on my identity i throw the emotional cushion out of the window . I SENSE A FREEDOM SURGING WITHIN ME .And the decision kicks in . I decide to stand up for my self and demand respect .

The denial breaks and i accept i have a rude kid who has been taking advantage of my love for her /him .

Respect superseded love and i became this cold and steel person . 

My child lost an overindulgent parent and tried best to invoke the reservoir of love in me but the hurt warned every time and the pain kept me sane . I can now be at peace .I HAVE EMOTIONAL IMMUNITY .I do the right things now and don't care about the outcome . Uff ! it came after so much pain .

So the next question- 

Will this work ? 

My answer - why bother ? 

SOMEONE JUST TOLD ME THIS IS SURRENDER--------WANT TO TRY ? 

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